9 Lies we believe about success

What is success? It’s been defined many times so far. Scientists used to attribute it to wealth, great career, happy family and self-realization. If only it has been that easy! In fact, it means different things to everyone. The real answer is inside of you—not in Google or encyclopedia. What is success to you? Let’s give you some time to think it over and focus on myths of it instead. 

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The more you focus on the result, the greater you become

That’s probably the most believed myth. We set big goals, imagine the whole picture of that desired moment in mind and say: “Yes, that’s me! That’s who I’m going to become regardless of anything!” There’s nothing wrong with visualization, but how are you going to get there? Success does not lie in results, it’s in your actions.

Allow yourself a moment to dream, but stop focusing on the results. Work out plans of actions instead. Twists of fate are unpredictable. The moment something goes wrong, the image that you had been expecting to see breaks up into tiny pieces. What do most people do then? Yes, they give up. Put all your energy into your performance. Enjoy the path you’re taking right now, not vague hopes for future. What have you done today to come closer to your goal? That’s much more important than how well you have imagined yourself beautiful and rich in 10 years. Small steps are frequently underestimated. 

You must have motivation 

“Motivation is garbage” – says Mel Robbins, TEDx speaker, author of “The 5 Second Rule”, life coach. Most of the time people face reality—bills, day-to-day problems, health issues and other things that force us to feel depressed and tired. Who on earth feels motivated with that? Do your job not waiting for the miracle and fooling yourself promising to start later. That’s comfortable, of course, when you believe your own lies and do nothing. However, it’s not going to bring any positive changes to your life. 

Successful people are most talented  

Success means hard work. It’s not a gift. Such talents as singing or counting better than others make you stand out in the childhood. Adults succeed due to stubborn and constant work. Negative thoughts like “I have no talent” or “I am not smart enough” are not an excuse for inaction. Do your job and fail. Come back and learn from your mistakes. Learn from the experience of other people. Try new strategies. Perseverance is such a great quality. There’s a hypothesis that 10 thousand hours of practice and study are required to become a high-level specialist in your job. This is five years of work. Pay attention – work, not talent. Spend at least 20 hours to jump over the amateur level and see if that’s your niche or not.

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Your upbringing decides how much you can achieve 

Some children are lucky to grow up in the extremely privileged circumstances. Others have to accommodate to the less comfortable ones. Are their opportunities equal? We all know that solid education background is a key to a great career. Wealthy parents may foot the bill for the best schools for their kids. Expensive books, tuitions, sports clubs, and vacations abroad prepare a child to become a successful person from a very young age. 

However, billionaires aren't all born with silver spoons in their mouths. Take Jan Koum, the founder of WhatsApp, as an example. At the age of 16, he immigrated to the United States from Ukraine with his mother. After sweeping the floor at a local store, he rushed to learn computer skills. Today, his profit has reached $9.1 billion. Learn new skills that are stimulating and interesting to you and follow his way in your niche.

You can succeed on your own

No, it’s another myth of success. Even if you live alone in the wild, at some point, you’ll need other people. You need business partners, let alone close friends and relatives. They protect you from loneliness and troubles like a shelter from unpleasant weather. Good business starts with reliable relationships, smart delegation, sponsorship, networking, etc. Fewer people, more money to your pocket is a short-term perspective. 

Coping someone who is successful is enough  

That’s the same as eating tomatoes being allergic to them because somebody lost weight on tomato diet. The same things don’t work for everyone. You must find your own path. Read a biography of rich and famous people, gain some inspiration, learn vital lessons from their experience, but work on own story. 

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It doesn’t take much time 

No result in a couple of days/months is the reason why millions and millions of people give up day in day out. That’s a huge mistake because success doesn't come overnight and you should understand it. To reach your goals, you must be persistent and patient. Draw up an elaborate plan for the next couple of years, follow it and calm down. Remember that some slight changes shouldn’t derail you. 

You must wear yourself out to succeed

No, you need to be in a good shape for a long run. Define what it means to be successful for you, and find a work-life balance. Career myths try to delude you promising that 40-60-hour working week is necessary. Statistics says that US workers on the average spend 34.5 hours per week at work. That’s more than enough. Instead of working too much, work more effectively. Success in your career is guaranteed if you manage to master time-management skills.

Money must be your main goal

Only losers chase money until the end of the life. Rich and prosperous people believe in the power of a big idea. Bill Gates, Oprah Winfrey, Tony Robbins, Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Michael Jackson – they all had a big idea that had been forcing them to wake up every morning and work hard towards becoming the extraordinary personalities that we know today. Success at work may be counted in digits, but not in life. Not money will never you the feeling of belonging and purpose. They just come along the way as a bonus for a good job. 

Well, every myth of success diverts our attention to unnecessary things. Work on your critical thinking skills; distinguish what really matters from what takes your time and energy for nothing. Remember that prosperity is an abstract conception. Your life is real. 

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